ᴀɴxɪᴇᴛʏ & 𝐼𝒸𝑒 𝒞𝓇𝑒𝒶𝓂
Life is about making intentional choices that serve us well & set us free to live the lives we want to live.
I am disciplined AND I afford myself grace when I need it. Today, when I started craving ice cream, I asked myself, “𝕁𝕖𝕤𝕤, 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕙𝕦𝕟𝕘𝕣𝕪 𝕗𝕠𝕣? 𝕃𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪?” I paused rather than acting on impulse. If I simply wanted some ice cream, I’d have some flipping ice cream, but this went deeper.
Leaning into my hard earned self-awareness, I recognized that it was more than a craving I was feeling. I was looking to soothe myself b/c I was anxious about things I needed/wanted to accomplish. I’ve been shifting gears back into school (BSN, you will be mine), grinding hard with my fitness coaching business (my ladies are killin’ it), and adjusting to changes at work (managerial and directorship changes). All these things have been quite anxiety provoking.
I know that I need to take care of some things on my to-do list ＦＩＲＳＴ, before I go to ice cream (or anything else for that matter) for comfort. I may still have some, but it will be as an enjoyable part of life, NOT as an action of anxiety-avoidance.
So, I came home, assuaged my anxiety by working on my papers for school. Now, I’m eating some Halo Top, which has less sugar, so it won’t bother my gut so much, & it has a lot of protein so I won’t feel like poop. Winning!!
Whenever I encounter a rush of emotion, I have learned that I need to take action and address one thing at a time to gain self-control rather than act impulsively. I dig deep, figure out what’s really bugging me, & take action on it. This works so much better for me than avoiding things.
Life’s not always about digging deep. Sometimes, we just want a little ice cream. Today, it was a little more than that for me. I shifted from being reactive to being proactive & it feels good to flex that mental muscle! I deserve to feel my best, so I treat myself accordingly!
Do you reach for food/drink in an attempt to mindlessly self-soothe?